Genderfluid Pronouns Necklace - Custom - Build your own! - Silver Chain


Gender isn't a binary, and it isn't always a fixed point either. We'd seen pronoun necklaces before and thought they were very cool and could be useful, except for one problem... they didn't change.

This necklace is for anyone who is genderqueer, genderfluid, bigender, people in multiple systems where there is more than one gender, people who are experimenting with pronouns, and anyone else who finds one set of gender pronouns to be inadequate for their self or selves expression. Flip the charms over to change which one is visible at the front, to let people know which pronouns you want used for yourself at the current time.

We used to offer pre-made sets of pronouns... But there's no way for those to cover everyone! So finally, it's here... PICK YOUR OWN PRONOUNS! :D

**IMPORTANT: This listing is for a necklace with two charms. Each necklace can hold up to four charms. To add additional charms, visit this link for an add-on listing where you can pick up to two more pronoun charms for your necklace. Etsy only allows two choices per listing, so I needed to make an add-on listing so four charms can be chosen.**

Available charms (see photos):
SHE - purple dots
SHE - pink dots
SHE - purple
SHE - teal
SHE - blue
HE - blue crackle
HE - light blue
HE - red
HE - green crackle
HE - pink
THEY - blue-purple
THEY - orange
THEY - purple
THEY - lime green crackle
THEY (SINGULAR) - yellow
THEY (SINGULAR) - magenta
THEY (PLURAL) - yellow dots
THEY (PLURAL) - dark green dots
CE - light teal dots
CO - green
E - yellow crackle
EY - lavender dots
FAE - cyan
FEY - magenta
HEN - orange
IT - light blue crackle
NE - lime green
ONE - blue-purple
PER - light orange
S/HE - green dots
SIE - purple
THON - yellow
VE - yellow dots
XE - dark green dots
XIE - yellow
ZE - green crackle
ZE - purple crackle
ZIE - yellow crackle
ZIE - green crackle
ZIE - orange crackle
? - rainbow

If any of the charms are not selectable in the drop-down listing, they are currently sold out. Check back later, we'll be restocking any sold-out charms as fast as we can!

All charms are a little under 1'' square, and made from inkjet shrinky dink plastic. The backs of the charms are printed with a tiny grey star pattern. The charms are hung together from a 24'' silver tone rolo chain.

The charms are sealed with acrylic and water-resistant but not waterproof, not recommended to expose to water.

Due to the handmade nature of these charms and how shrinky dinks work, there may be minor variations and irregularities in the size and shape of each charm, and some necklaces may be more rectangular than square. It makes each necklace unique. :)

If you'd prefer a dark gunmetal chain instead of the silver chain, feel free to add a note at checkout and we will substitute the chain for you!

Please allow 2-4 days for us to assemble your custom necklace before shipping.

We know that there are many, many different sets of pronouns that people may want to use on a necklace, and that these gender expression necklaces will be inadequate for covering everyone. It takes a long time for us to make new charms, so we can't make custom charms to order, but if your preferred pronouns are not listed here feel free to send us a message and we'll try to add more options when we make the next batch of charms, spoons willing.

**SPACEROBOT STUDIO DONATES 10% OF SALES TO ASAN (Autistic Self Advocacy Network)**

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Frequently Asked Questions

You don't have the pronoun I use for your gender pronoun necklace. Can you add this pronoun?

If you see a pronoun that we are missing, please send us a message and we will try to add it! It may take time for us to get around to making the new charms, but we are always looking to add more pronouns options.

Can you do custom orders?

Unfortunately we don't have the time or spoons to make custom jewelry, communication necklaces, or charms right now. Please check out what we have available in the shop!

There is one exception - If you'd like a communication necklace with a combination of different charms that we already have in our shop, and those charms are of the same shape, send us a message! For example: A necklace with 3 of the battery charms, and 1 pronoun charm. We can do this! We can fit up to 4 charms per communication necklace.

We can *sometimes* do custom knit hats or scarves depending on our available time and energy. Contact us if interested!

I'm not autistic. Can I still use your communication necklaces?

Yes! We firmly believe that communication tools should be available to anyone who finds them useful, no matter their neurotype.

If a communication necklace would be useful or fun for you, and you want to get it, go ahead! It is not appropriation.

What are washing instructions for knit items?

Most knit items that are made from acrylic or mostly acrylic are machine washable and dryable. Use gentle settings. Knit items may become softer and fuzzier with washing. To keep them closer to their original state, you can also hand wash them gently and lay them flat to dry.

Wool items, or items with high wool or animal fiber content, can be trickier to wash. If placed in a washing machine or washed with high warmth, these items can shrink and felt, so do not do this or your knit item may be ruined. It is best to hand wash these items gently in cold water, and lay them flat to air dry.

What are the care instructions for the shrink plastic necklaces?

The charms are printed with inkjet ink and need to be kept dry. We seal both sides of the charms with several layers of acrylic spray to get the charms as water resistant as possible, but if exposed to water or dampness there is still a chance that water can soak through the coating and the ink can run. If the charms get wet, wipe them dry asap, and make sure there is no moisture trapped between charms. If dirt gets on the charms, wipe with a dry cloth. If that does not remove the dirt, a fast-drying wipe like those used for electronics may work. Unfortunately we cannot guarantee that water or any liquid cleaning products will not damage the charms.

The necklace is awesome. It is sturdy and flips well and I have been wearing it every day since I got it. Also the backs of the charms is star patterned and that is just really great! It got here quickly and was packaged to protect. Can't say enough good things. I can't wait to order other communication necklaces!

Gave away to a friend, they liked it. It may help at work & in community, if they feel comfortable wearing it. I feel it is a nearly subtle conversation starter.

They came as perfect! thanks!

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